20/20

A friend of mine recently asked me if I had any marriage advice, as she is about to get hitched. I told her that her and her husband's problems should always be just theirs. No one else needs to hear them. If you have an issue with your spouse, you tell him, not your momma, or your girl friends. It really bothers me when I am with a group of women (or just one woman!) and they all start baggin on their husband. I would be really hurt if Kevin started telling his friends things I do that he hates or makes him mad (which although I do lots that he can complain about, he never gets mad... really. Never. Never ever yells either. It's great. He's the best!) So I'm not going to talk about him behind his back either.


Anyways, I've been thinking about what advice I have to give newly weds and what I'd do differently and I came up with these other things as well.

1. Stainless steel. That is the only way to go when you buy cookware. I bought some expensive nonstick stuff and less than 5 years later I am replacing all of it. Stainless steel yo. and glass for baking. Just say 'NO' to nonstick!
The only thing I did right with kitchen items was my knives.... I dished out a lot of dough for some good ones and I'm glad I did... Just sharpen them and they will work forever!

2. Kids. If I could have controlled some health issues that had to be resolved before I could have kids, I would've had them right away. I love my kids so much, and there is nothing greater than being Mommy. I wouldn't have waited if I didn't have those issues, and knowing what I know now. But that's just my opinion.

3. Don't spend your money. Sure have fun every now and then, but hold your money tight... you'll be glad you did in a few years, when you have to buy diapers. We were able to save a lot in our first year of marriage and then we bought a money pit, and now I miss my green.

4. Who am I kidding, I don't have that much advice. This is where it ends......